Connor loves cub scouts and just finished his Wolf a couple of weeks ago. He is now going into Bears and this week was his first week. On Tuesday, I got a call from one of his new leaders, letting me know their meetings are on Thursdays after school and that they would be working on a Bear badge about bike safety. Uh oh. My heart sank when I heard this because Connor couldn't ride a bike yet, but I knew he wanted to go to scouts so badly. When he got home, I told him that his leader had called and watched his face fall when I explained they would be going for a mile-long bike ride after working on the bike safety badge.
When Willie got home, I explained to him the problem. He decided it was time Connor learned to ride. Connor had been working on this when he was 7, but after many falls he declared that he didn't need to ride a bike, he never wanted to ride again, and he could ride his scooter instead. And that's what he has done, up till now.
When Willie told him that he was going to help him learn how to ride, I could see the conflict in his face--the war between his fear of getting hurt and his desire to participate with the other boys at scouts. After a few moments of indecision, he gathered his courage and went outside with his dad.
I went out shortly after they had gotten started, just in time to see him fall. He grabbed his knee and cried, but Willie pulled him up and got him right back on the bike. He looked so scared, his face scrunched in fierce concentration as he tried to keep from falling, and he breathed like someone having an anxiety attack, gasping for air. But he kept trying, despite his many falls. Finally, at the end of the hour, he was staying on the bike more often than he was falling. We knew he wasn't really ready for the mile-long bike ride, however.
Thursday morning, I talked with one of his leaders again. She suggested that he come for the bike safety part, then she would whisper to him that he could go before they actually got ready for the ride. So when Connor got home from school, I told him the plan and he walked his bike over to her house (it's just a few houses down from us). I know he was concerned the other kids would make fun of him, but apparently no one did. Connor said he had a good time and really enjoyed scouts, despite not being able to ride with the other kids.
Then, last night when Willie got home, he got all the kids outside and told them they were going for a bike ride. He got Connor on his bike and he rode all around the neighborhood, gaining more confidence as they rode. He didn't fall once! He was SO proud of himself!! He came in the house and said, "Mom! Mom! I can ride a bike! I can't wait to tell Denver (his best friend) that I can ride a bike with him now! And guess what, Mom?? It's EASY!!" :-)